It’s no big secret that I’m obsessed with elopements. I’ve always been a big fan of smaller weddings, even before Covid. My dream wedding would probably be in the mountains with 15 of my favorite people and hopefully 3 dogs… And here is why.
When you are planning a big wedding, you are probably planning the biggest party in your lifetime and most of the time, it’s probably not entirely about you. While it’s really nice to have everyone jump on board, however, it’s almost impossible to have meaningful interaction with every single guest during the day. When you have a smaller wedding, you get to be truly in the moment and soak in the day with the most important people in your lives.
The idea of having the perfect wedding day always stresses people out. All the planning, coordinating and the rushed timeline sometimes can just be way too much. Spending thousands of dollars, having dozens of vendors and dealing with everyone’s opinions and the stress can cause major anxiety. So you end up so stressed out over the nightmare you’ve accidentally created. And here is the thing though, you don’t have to feel that way. You are free to choose whatever experience brings you the most joy.
Research from 2019 showed that on average a wedding costs $35,000 in NZ & AUS. (That’s $3,500 per hour) This amount includes all the wedding favors, signs, small decorations, plates, furniture hire, napkins, all the random stuff that would probably never be used again. A massive wedding means a lot of stuff. Instead of in a fancy ballroom where you are spending $100 per head on guests’ meals. You can spend that 10k in Turkey watching sunrise on a hot balloon. You can travel to Europe for a month. You get the idea. If you are the type of person who values experiences over things, then an intimate wedding might be your jam!
The idea of saying your vows in front of over a hundred people and being in the center of attention can be scary. Sometimes it’s even too scary for you to show your true emotions. If you are more of an introvert, the idea of an intimate wedding might sound good to you. You are free to just be yourself and so whatever that makes you feel comfortable.
Having a smaller wedding means you have more choices. You don’t have to worry about finding a space that can host 100 guests. You can get married anywhere – in your parent’s backyard, in your favorite cafe, in nature… Small weddings also afford you the time to be in your true element. There’s no rushed, forced, 30 mins of ‘look at the camera and smile’. You can be truly yourself, relaxed, and process the emotions that you are supposed to feel on your wedding day. And the most meaningful photos happen in between these moments.